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best post on mlia EVER

Today, my friend stayed over. He fell asleep before I did, and talks a lot in his sleep. I very clearly heard him say ‘I want to have sex with Mr. Potato head and bear his spuddy babies so I can give them to the needy Irish!’ So. Many. Questions. MLIA.

I respect people who get divorced more than the ones who are too scared to do so.

6od:

I’m not talking about some divorce that happens 3 weeks after that awesome weekend in Vegas. I mean the ones that come after years and years of marriage. The truly honest ones where they got married under the pretense of having no end in sight (read: forever), because they were that in love. And then eventually getting a divorce? That must be fucking terrifying. They probably thought they were set; like that was one big area of their life they never have to worry about. Two people live their lives together, completely - like that Spice Girls song where “two become one”. Okay, that’s a horrible reference. How about, it’s like Aristophanes’ speech in Plato’s Symposium, where he tells a myth about how people used to be spherical asexual creatures with body parts belonging to both men and women. They didn’t need others to procreate, because they were whole and complete. And, in his myth, one day Zeus and all the other gods got worried because they thought maybe the humans would become to powerful, so Zeus sliced everyone in half - making two sexes, male and female. And from that day on, no one was whole - everyone would forever be in search of Love because that is what brought them together with their soulmate; their other half. Kind of a beautiful little myth, really. But nothing more.

People still go in search of love and relationships and “mates” in some effort of completion. Whether it’s because they want to have kids or just don’t want to die alone, people are generally searching for the special someone who can bring them some satisfaction and peace of mind. So it makes sense that most people try to avoid getting a divorce. Some people see divorce as weak, like it’s the easy way out. “You should work on your marriage.” As if they were just throwin’ the towel in so easily.

To admit to yourself and your spouse that it’s over takes a lot more courage, strength, and perseverance than it does to stay together for the sake of being comfortable, worry of what others will think, or even the fucking kids. There’s no solidarity in staying in a loveless marriage. People change all the time. Chances are you’ve been doing it for years so it’s pretty illogical to think that you suddenly won’t change after a certain point, unless that point is death. I’m not saying that it’s impossible - obviously, some people do stay happily married and in love til they die. But that isn’t the fucking rule - it’s the exception. Divorce doesn’t kill the concept of “happily ever after” - staying in a loveless marriage does.